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Hatred, Intolerance on Display

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You know when you’re doing something right:  you start getting tomatoes thrown at you.  In this case, naturally, it was only a matter of time before “they” started leaving their well-thought-out and, of course, completely accurate comments on this blog about the gay “lifestyle”.  Makes sense to me.  I would fully expect them to be experts on how we, the LGBT community, live our lives…much in the same way I would fully expect my mechanic to have the perfect diagnosis and treatment for whatever physical ailment I may have at the time.

I didn’t want to publish this comment.  But, the more I thought about it, the more it became clear that this is exactly the type of mean-spirited, hate-laced behavior and reaction that I’ve been talking about.  It’s exactly the type of response we’ve come to expect from the hard-core, ultra-conservative, group who dedicate their lives to hating any- and everyone who doesn’t think like them or act the way they feel you should act.  So, I have to publish it:

Homosexuality is a behavior. I mean that whole “genetic difference” fraud has been thoroughly debunked and now it is referred to as a “lifestyle” which openly implies choice. Thus the Jim Crow analogy you so frivolously apply is errant from the start. Nice try though. Oh yes and studies are also demonstrating that “queerness” does not occur in nature at some regular, predictable rate either as the homo community has alleged recently. It is after all quite “unnatural”. Were it an instinct of nature it would be productive not destructive. Simple enough eh? It’s just plain old square peg round hole stupidity and futility but some are determined to persist in their ways which are much too often self indulgent and self loathing. A frank discussion with the priest or pastor might bring about much needed spiritual enlightenment. I would recommend that.

Regarding the idiotic and shallow remark made above about Christians and minorities nothing could be further from the truth. It isn’t Christians funding and promoting Planned Parenthood the organization founded to exterminate blacks and now applying the same level of hate for their fellow man among latinos. Those are secularists, progressies, and plain old moral wretches. I mean think about it rationally for a moment: you have your baby, your product killed via brutal method then it is sucked down a vacuum hose, the parts placed in a bag, then thrown out in the dumpster? And you want to call this a “womans right to choose”? She chooses allright. There is truly a deep level of pathology at work in that kind of mind. In fact it is acknowledged to be so disgusting and disturbing that Planned Parenthood and abortion supporters don’t want women to see pictures or video’s of the procedure or the result in fear that they might actually become re-acquainted with their consciences. That says it all. God help us.

“Stupidity”, “futility”, “self-indulgent”, and my personal favorite “self-loathing”.  That’s this person’s view of the LGBT community.

Let me say right here that this is not an attack on Republicans.  I have many Republican friends who are absolutely wonderful people.  To be sure, most of them even distance themselves from the narrow-mindedness, hatred, and intolerance that is spewed from the fringe group.  Instead, this is about people who hate anyone who doesn’t conform to their beliefs.  That’s a very dangerous mindset.

The first question that comes to mind is why is it that what other people do with their lives so incredibly disturbing to these people?  I don’t know what goes on in their homes.  And, personally, I don’t really care.  Nothing about their lives has an affect on my life.  That is, of course, unless and until they begin to impose their thoughts, their beliefs, their biases on my life.  Then, the line is drawn.

Now, in an attempt to be fair to “the other side”, I will acknowledge that their first argument to what I just said will be “Well, you gays are always shoving your lifestyles in our(the normal people’s) faces.”  How would I know that?  Because, they’ve used it so much, now, it’s become a tired cliche.  But, let’s explore that philosophy:  Correct me if I’m wrong, but I thought this struggle that we’re immersed in is for equal rights.  Nothing more; nothing less.  Two factors come into play with their argument:  1.)  if “they” weren’t always so concerned about “those radical gays” or “the gay agenda”, there would be no need for “them” to feel we’re “shoving [ourselves] in their faces”.  If they would simply mind their own business and live their own lives as opposed to trying to dictate ours, they probably wouldn’t even know we are here; and, 2.) we get heterosexuality “shoved” in our collective faces regularly, which makes their argument terribly hypocritical.

Let’s cut to the chase.  What this comment proved, without doubt, is exactly what I’ve been saying:  the mindset and the rhetoric that comes from the opponent out there on that fringe right, is nothing short of hate speech.  There is nothing “godly” about how “anonymous” wrote that.  It was written with unmitigated hatred.  It was written as an attack.  And, it’s precisely that mindset and rhetoric that fuels the violence against the LGBT community that we see.  It’s the trigger to many a gay teen suicide; it’s the catalyst for many of the schoolyard bullies.

So, how do we combat it effectively?  Well, first of all, we need to be realistic and understand that it may never fully go away.  There will always be lunatics who need someone to look down upon in order to make themselves feel superior.  And, there will always be the self-righteous power junkies ready to force their will, their views, their reality on others.  Ultimately, we combat them, and win, by continuing to increase our numbers and making our voices heard.  We win by continuing to live our lives openly, honestly, proudly, and happily.  Most importantly, though, we continue to spread love because, in the end, love will always conquer hate.

“I’m a Christian, Unless You’re Gay”.  Explain to me, again, how that works!?

Written by Ron Kemp

April 4, 2012 at 5:07 am

The Stacey Campfield Camp Responds!!!

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woke up this morning to the surprise of my journalistic life:  a direct response from the Stacey Campfield camp.  Actually, the unmoderated comment that was left is supposedly directly from Stacey, himself.  However, upon further inspection, and after checking the links provided, I’m going to give him the benefit of the doubt and say that he, himself, did NOT send me the response.  On the other hand, regardless as to who, in fact, sent it, it’s frightening to know that these are the “facts” these people espouse.  Worse, it’s detrimental that they seek to impose their terribly misguided “factual” beliefs on the public-at-large and, in particular, the LGBT community.  Allow me to dissect.

The responder started of for acknowledging my passion:  “While I apriciate (sic) your passion, here are some cold hard facts…”  Then, the fun begins.

On the issue of gay men having a decidedly shorter lifespan, this link was offered as their “proof”.  Their “documentation” turned out to be a far right-wing propaganda piece chock-full of the same old diatribe we’ve been hearing for decades.  In the first paragraph, it’s noted that “…evidence shows homosexuality to be a compulsion and lethal addiction, not ‘mainstream America’”.  It’s also noted that even without AIDS, “…homosexual persons will probably not live past their 40s…”  I can’t make this stuff up!  Read it for yourself.

As I suspected, and as I stated in the original article, At The Root of the Tennessee Madness, they are taking outdated information, in some cases from as far back as the late 70s!, and presenting it as today’s facts and reality.  How dangerous is that?  First of all, things that held true in 1978 obviously don’t hold the same validity in 2012.  But, more importantly, how dangerous is it to attempt to govern in today’s world using 1978 survey information?

Conclusion:

Study after study reveals that homosexuality, whether male or female, can take anywhere from 10, 20 to 30 years off of someone’s lifespan. With all the attention on smoking, which the National Cancer Institute says takes from 7 to 10 years off someone’s life, why not the same human outcry on homosexuality? Here’s a behavior that’s killing people 2 to 3 times the rate of smoking, yet nobody seems to care. In fact, we are encouraging and affirming individuals into the “gay” lifestyle. If you truly love someone, you would steer them away from self-destructive behaviors, rather than towards them, shouldn’t you? Homosexuals need our tough love, not blind love, the kind of love that is going to love them no matter what they say and do. We must extend that helping hand and say ” I think your worth saving, let’s work on it together.”

All of that, and I’m still only on the first link “he” provided.

So, where does his information supporting getting AIDS through “normal” heterosexual vaginal sex come from?  What’s his “scientific” proof?  Cecil Adams, touted as the world’s smartest human.  The world’s genius was asked, in December 1988, his opinion of how risky heterosexual sex was.  In 1988, the whole world was still trying to get a grip on what was really going on with the virus.  I know.  I was there.  I was in San Francisco during those days, watching my own friends die on a daily basis from a disease that we still hadn’t fully come to understand.  But, again, that was 1988.

So, to make sure this is very clear:  A U.S. Senator is taking someone’s opinion and presenting it to his constituents as “scientific fact”.  Worse, he’s using someone else’s opinions, masked as knowledge, in order to propagate his own bigotry and hatred towards the LGBT community, young and old.  Can I say again:  this is an ELECTED official!  I’m convinced that today’s elected officials have completely lost sight of the fact that, by virtue of our votes, we hired them to work for us.  They’ve got it reversed.  And, that needs to be re-examined.

And, finally, an attempt was made to justify his bill “Don’t Say Gay”, which forbids school administrators to say the word “gay” or even acknowledge their LGBT students as such.  The bill that, if not already implemented, could’ve potentially saved Phillip Parker’s life.

As for the reason for the interview (My bill on parental responsibility of teaching sexuality to very young children) Here are some points of view for you to consider.

 

-It is a parents responsibility to decide when a child is ready to grasp such a complex issue as sexuality and what they want to tell the child about that complex subject. Not a teachers.

 

- All children develop mentally at different rates. I do not feel a teacher with an agenda (Be it pro or con) is the appropriate person to decide “Now is the time” for an entire class of children just because they may think one way or another on an issue and want to espouse it.

 

-A teacher is not a trained child psychologist or psychiatrist and could do as much harm as good to a sexually confused child.

 

-I doubt many on the other side would want a teacher who said “Homosexuality is evil, dirty and wrong” just because they felt that it was what is appropriate, that it is what they thought the children needed to and were ready to hear. This bill ensures neutrality from teachers.

 

-Physically threatening behavior is what is and needs to remain covered for all groups. Not the sexuality of the victim. We already have anti bullying legislation passed in Tennessee (In fact I co sponsored it 2 or 3 years ago when it passed) so all children are protected from bullying in our schools. [this is in reference to the bill that would allow for bullying of LGBT students if done for "religious, political, or philosophical reasons".  And, they still don't get it!  No one is looking for SPECIAL protection.  And, we certainly don't present ourselves as a "special class" of people.  Equality means we're equal to every other person, not special.  In fact, THEY are making us that "special class" of people by singling us out to be victimized by discrimination in the job and housing markets and, frightfully, in the schools!]

 

-We do not need an un equal justice system that creates special separate classes of protected people that gets special protection under the law.

 

-Nor do we need to silence the first amendment rights of religious free speech of those in our schools whose family may hold different beliefs (as long as those beliefs are not physically threatening). [note to you, Rep. Campfield:  not only is it physically threatening to the LGBT students, it's costing lives.]

 

-While there is a scientific and educational need to mention the basics of heterosexuality when teaching the basics of reproduction (XY chromosomes, etc.) there is no scientific need to mention homosexuality as homosexuals do not naturally reproduce.

 

-We are falling behind the rest of the world in math, science, and English amongst other things. Tennessee ranks about 46th in most areas. Social engineering is just one less issue teachers should have to worry about teaching as part of their curricula.

That someone from the Stacey Campfield camp thought enough of what I said to take time to respond is encouraging.  That they have this view of reality is mind-boggling.  That they are passing their myopic, unfounded, and outmoded views on the people of an entire state is very dangerous.  So, again, I strongly urge signing the petitions.  Too much is at stake to wait for “someone else” to do it.

Why It Matters to Me

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welcome-to-portsmouthTwelve years old.  I’m on vacation in a little rural city named Portsmouth, VA.  My aunt, with whom I was spending the summer, prearranged with her friend and neighbor to have her friend’s nephew also visit from out-of-state at the same time.  Built-in companions.  Little did my aunt know that I would become very attracted to this boy.  Sure, we certainly did hang out together nearly every minute of every day!  I was mesmerized by him.

One summer afternoon, we were over his [aunt's] house shooting pool in the basement.  This was the most exciting time of the entire vacation for me!!  My heart-throb and I were alone together at last!!  Who cared who would win the match!?  I just wanted to be alone with him.  Eventually, I got close enough to sneak a kiss on the cheek!  I was in Heaven.  He was furious!  Needless to say, that slammed the brakes on our friendship.  Stopped on a dime.

I went on with my summer vacation sans my former heart-throb.  I’m resilient like that.  We never uttered another single word to one another, as badly as I wanted to.  He met all new friends.  They weren’t the kind of kids I would hang around.  Riding my bike merrily down a neighborhood street on blazing summer afternoon, I spot my former friend at the other end of the street riding his bike towards me.  And, he was with his new friends….the ones I would never hang around.  My gut instinct told me that this wasn’t going to be a friendly encounter.  I had no idea how right that instinct was.

As we met in the middle of the block, one of the boys knocked me off of my bike.  It was downhill from there.  Quickly, I was surrounded by the pack as they proceeded to beat the holy shit out of me!!!  At one point, the biggest of the boys had my head locked between his knees, using his knees as a vice grip!, as he delivered blow after blow after bloody blow to my face.  Eventually, I was rescued, and the gay bashing was over.

Nothing about me was ever the same after that summer.  Whereas it didn’t lead me to suicide (told you I was resilient!), it forever changed everything about how I view life.  There are emotional scars left even today. (to wit, my eyes teared as I wrote this recount)It matters to me because I’ve been there.

It matters to me because it’s either costing lives or leaving a lifetime of emotional destruction in its wake.  It matters to me because this kind of brutal, animalistic behavior MUST end!!

How Some Parents Drive Their Kids to Suicide

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I’ve been saying for too many years that there are parents in this country, and probably around the world, who drive their gay or lesbian sons or daughters to suicide.  And, to their defense, I will say that they don’t even realize they’re doing it until it’s too late.  We as adults, young or old, already know how difficult the teen years can be.  The teasing, the bullying, the “trying to fit in”, the sheer weight of peer pressure.  Toss into the ring the reality of being a gay or lesbian who is still figuring themselves out – or, for that matter, even the ones who are confident within themselves with their sexuality – which is almost certain to bring added pressure and tension.  Take all of that turmoil that they’re already dealing with at school amongst their peers, add to it living in a household where they already know that gays and lesbians are not accepted, looked down upon, or (in some cases) vehemently hated.  That’s a recipe for disaster.  It plays out in household across this country, and around the world, every single day.  Remember: every 18 minutes, a kid takes his own life.  That’s an epidemic!  It’s time we start changing the way we think in order to start saving some lives.  Even the strongest steel breaks under too much pressure.

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