Ryan Alexander Cranford, 17, Morgantown, WVA
Ryan was 10 days away from graduating from Morgantown High School. Just 10 more days. According to one of his schoolmates, however, the bullying at that school, from teachers and students alike, is fierce. And, even as the light at the end of the tunnel was clearly visible, Ryan couldn’t see it. He couldn’t take one more day. Monday, April 30th, he ended his life.
Just 10 more days.
I haven’t been able to find any news stories or other verifying information. The student classmate indicated that he was bullied but didn’t give a reason for it. Here’s what she posted on her tumblr blog:
Today is a sad day for me. On this day, April 30, 2012, a sweet soul lost his life.He was a senior at Morgantown High School. He had just 10 days of his high school career left, JUST 10 days.I was not close to him or his friend, but I saw him from time to time walking down the hallways all alone. I never took the time to stop and say, “hey!”, or “how is your day?” to him. I would just go on with what I was doing like he wasn’t searching for someone to be kind or someone to just stop and tell him he looked nice today.I should’ve taken the time to stop what I was doing for two minutes just to ask him how he was doing or if he was having a good day. If I would’ve done that, maybe he would still be here.I just can’t believe how hard this hit me. WHen it comes to people my own age and it’s someone you saw every single day at school, it becomes really difficult to deal with.You can’t help but blame yourself for it happening when you know you could’ve been there for him and been a friend to him.I’ve been asking myself so many questions and wondering if I was ever mean to him or a bully like the others were.Bullying is a very serious issue at MHS.The staff and students ALL do it without realizing it. They just don’t have any respect for others or themselves anymore and it’s caused so much chaos. They all need to wake up and see that this is a serious matter and that it has caused a lot of hurt for people.If this horrible thing does not wake them up and make them see how bad it is, then I don’t know what will.Today was the first time I’ve seen a lot of our MHS students come together and support something so much.I hate that it came to this for him. He had so much potential and so many talents that nobody will ever get to see.We’re all going to miss you Ryan. We will never forget you. YOu will always be in our memory, minds, hearts and souls.We love you.
I’m convinced that this issue is not being taken nearly as seriously as it warrants. I’ll explain why I’m convinced in the next blog post. I will say, though, that tonight’s experience convinced me beyond a shadow of a doubt that the concern level isn’t anywhere near where it should be for this issue of bullying. Therein lies the lion’s share of the problem.
Ryan, and his family, should be planning for his graduation from high school and his 18th birthday, which is right around the corner. These are supposed to be some of the happiest days of his and his family’s life. Ryan is supposed to be looking for that summer job in preparation for the excitement of his coming freshman year of college. What his family wasn’t supposed to be doing was burying their 17-year-old son less than 10 days from his high school graduation.
Look, I’m not naive. I don’t think for one second that this is going to go away overnight. Would I love to see that happen? Well, certainly. Rather, it’s going to take a continued persistent effort from many people before we’ll truly see bullying, and teen suicide, become a thing of the past. At the same time, every single time I see another teen end their life because of it, I realize that we’ve still got so, so far to go. But, as David Long put it, everything starts with one. Please don’t miss out on your chance to make a difference. There’s someone, no matter where you are in the world, who’s waiting to hear you tell them that things are going to get better, that they can make it thought the overwhelming turmoil they’re facing right now…that there truly are people who care about them and their lives and would do anything in this world to keep them from committing suicide.
Sadly, all of our efforts will be too late for Ryan Cransford, and his family. May your soul now find the peace it deserves. Ryan Cranford: June 9, 1994 – April 30, 2012.
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