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Amanda Todd, 15, Bullied to Death

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This is the one.  If ever there was one event that got a little too deep under my skin, this is it.  If ever there was one teen suicide that illustrated as clearly as the day is long that it is beyond time for us to stop talking about this and start getting our hands dirty trying to fix it, this is it!!!

I had originally saved this article to my computer earlier in the day, just before leaving out for work, but I didn’t read it.  That wasn’t until later in the day, after I was done “working”. (trust me:  playing music isn’t “work”)  Not knowing that they were related, I read another article about a teen suicide from the day before.  I went to read it and was confronted with this video.  After watching the video, my emotions were boiling over.  I wanted to cry, but I couldn’t.  What I’d just watched on youtube had me much too angry to be able to cry.  So, take the time out to watch this video….

Ok, if you didn’t watch it, you really need to in order to fully understand everything that will follow.  This video, and what happened to 15-year-old Amanda Todd, clearly and definitely points out the two top reasons why we’re not making a dent in the incidents of bullying and/or the deadly aftermath it leaves:

  • Far too many parents either have no clue what their school-aged children are doing, or the flat-out don’t care.
  • Young people today, whether we want to accept it or not, have taken bullying to a whole different level.  Worse, they show a callousness and lack of compassion unlike anything I’ve ever seen.

Kid yourself, if you’d like, and say that there’s always been bullying and this is nothing new.  My response to you will be a bucket of cold water poured over your head in an effort to wake you up!!  This is a whole new level of bullying!!!  This adolescent terrorist is guilty of real and punishable crimes!  He stalked Amanda Todd until she couldn’t take it anymore.  He stalked her and terrorized her until it was obvious, at least to her already-fragile mind, that her only escape was death.  For him to get to the point where he knew her entire life’s story and history of family and friends clear indicates that his intent was malicious and criminal, and it MUST be handled as such!  This incredibly sad story is wrought with issues that should help clarify why bullying is still escalating, in frequency and intensity, and the teen suicide rate is still so high, despite the efforts of a virtual army to reduce it.

  1. At the top of the list is where is there evidence of ANY adult supervision!?  Why is as 12-year-old girl sending nude pictures over the Internet without any detection or consequences?  How is it that this boy is able to literally stalk Amanda Todd to the point where he has every piece of her vital information without any detection or consequences!?
  2. There is a very obvious lack of guidance on the part of the kid who terrorized Amanda.  Set aside his criminal activity that led to her death for a second.  It’s October 12, 2012.  Besides this blog, and the facebook blog page, there are literally hundreds upon tens of thousands of people and organizations mobilized to bring awareness to the issue of bullying and teen suicide.  Celebrities are speaking out…loudly!  Political and (some) religious leaders of speaking out.  If this kid is computer savvy enough to spy on someone’s entire life as effectively as he did, there is NO WAY he doesn’t know that his activities could lead to this girl’s death!  Yet, he did it anyway.  And, that he did all of this in spite of knowing what the consequences could be clearly indicates an absence of compassion or even a sense of right and wrong.  Those things are, or at least SHOULD be taught at home.
  3. Further, that other kids were posting “I hope she dies” and other such mean-spirited comments online shows the same lack of compassion or sense of right and wrong.
  4. And, worst of all, that young Amanda couldn’t find any relief from the terror she was enduring speaks to the state of our society, worldwide.  Unfortunately, with this being a world of high-speed, immediate connection with the world, cyberbullying can be, and in many cases is a 24-hour menace.

Amanda created that YouTube video in a last-ditch effort to reach out for help.  It’s what these young people are instructed and encouraged to do.  I post it regularly on the facebook blog page.  Yet, no one heard her.  Oh, sure, now that she’s gone, the comments are flooding the youtube comment board, and the video is, right now, going viral.  Unfortunately, Amanda Todd screamed out for help a month ago.  Her screams fell upon deaf ears.

Amanda Todd’s suicide was so incredibly preventable.  Too many things went wrong in this case to even know where to begin.  What is certain, at least in one man’s mind, is that the perpetrator of this heinous cyberbullying must be held accountable.  Forget the cries of “he’s just a kid, himself”!!  He knew, 100%, what he was doing!  He did it meticulously and methodically.  He stalked her.  For years!!!  He terrorized her.  For years!!!  He is no less responsible for her death than he would be had he hunted her down and shot her, himself.

If we’re ever going to bring this madness to an end, it’s time to stop sugar-coating everything.  It’s time to stop sidestepping the real, core issues.  It’s time for us, as adults, to step up our own game and make changes that will prevent things like this from ever happening again.  Whatever it takes!!

To you, Amanda, we say a very painful and tearful goodbye.  You shouldn’t have had to go through this.  Certainly, you shouldn’t have had to go through it alone.  You’re at peace, now.


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  1. Everything you said, I thought as I watched this poor girl’s video a few minutes ago.


    October 12, 2012 at 4:30 pm

    • i thought that its horrifying and not telling anybody that u were bullied or anybody even knew about we could of helped her if we knew about we could all stand together and stand up to bullying and try to stop it


      October 13, 2012 at 5:40 am

  2. Saw this video last night, so angry & disgusted. A little girl hung herself at my son’s school this spring. Same sort of comments from her tormentors. They wrote on her locker that they were glad she died, she deserved to die etc. Just sick, what the hell is wrong with these kids & what makes them think they deserve to be here anymore than any other kid? And yes, where are these kids parents? Who is teaching them right from wrong? Apparently nobody! I agree, that boy (assume it’s a boy, not an adult) who stalked her needs to be held accountable, all those kids should be! So ashamed of our society. I think it’s time the parents are held accountable too, maybe that’s what it’ll take for them to step up & teach their kids to behave. RIP little ones.


    October 12, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    • I don’t understand how any one let alone a kid could be so cold. How do the bullies parents not know? And how do they handle the idea that their child wished death on another person? Honestly. It scars me to see more and more lacking simple emotions and empathy. It’s not normal.


      October 13, 2012 at 3:06 am

  3. This kid is trolling her video, or serious and he’s the kid.


    October 12, 2012 at 5:15 pm

    • What’s your problem? Why do you think it is okay to hurt others? Don’t you know right from wrong? How old are you? This is a serious problem and u are not taking it seriousely. i don’t care how old you are, but it’s sad to see that you don’t have a heart, the ability to sympathize, empathize, or care about people? What your doing is wrong…YOU KNOW IT, and I am just going to say that YOU REALLY NEED SOME SERIOUS MENTAL HELP.


      October 13, 2012 at 4:05 pm

    • Thats the kid that stalked her?


      October 14, 2012 at 6:54 am

      • Just so I’m clear for those that are the less intelligent of you.
        I don’t hate her, I hate you.


        October 14, 2012 at 8:00 am

      • Oh so trolling is years of stalking? No… I don’t think i did that.
        Unless you were attempting to make yourself seem stupid, which you did marvellously.


        October 14, 2012 at 6:22 pm

  4. I have spent the past hour combing the Internet for ANYTHING that even mentions the obvious stalker involved in this tragedy! It appears only a newspaper in New Delhi and your piece here have even mentioned this. My first question was where are the parents my second since this person is described as a Man in the video. Why the he’ll was some one possibly and more than likely an adult (anyone over 18 falls in that category!) was allowed to sexually harass and proposition a 12-13 year old girl?! If you switch towns/cities three f-ing times to escape why in the hell weren’t the police approached earlier? I have a 14 year old daughter if some idiot was following her had her address and list if family and friends names I’M going after him myself or hiring a private investigator. This won’t happen however because I set up her Facebook with the highest levels of privacy and have schooled her on appropriate Internet etiquette. Is it possible to flood the media with bullshit about investigating this without ONCE mentioning this stalker?! What kind of investigation is it? Pretend so society feels better, pretty much. I hope all of the young kids this poor girls age take home not only a lesson on bullying but a broader understanding about mistakes that last forever and what can result from exposing yourself online. A simple error in judgement and one split second was all it took to make a minor who obviously didn’t know any better a target. Thanks for being one of the only other people who apparently noticed this.


    October 12, 2012 at 10:09 pm

  5. I just sent this article along with the U-Tube link to Anderson Cooper at CNN. Please email him and ask him to report on this. He has been working hard to make teen bullying a national issue!!!!!

    Curt H.

    October 12, 2012 at 10:25 pm

  6. I am ashamed as a parent, a human, a woman, an grown abused kid that our society has become so dangerous, so painful that our children feel they have to die to get relief. I am ashamed and so sorry.

    Chrissy La fountain

    October 12, 2012 at 10:43 pm

  7. I just don’t understand how her classmates got away with everything. It really breaks my heart and scares me to see where our socity is going. Those “bullies” will one day be the adults running our world. I’m dreaded the day. How is it that these kids have not be punished? How is it that the man was able to stock her in the first place. The entire situation is heart breaking. I honestly hope the kids who bullied her get some type if mental help, becasue something is seriously wrong with them. The lack of ability to feel real emotions is scary. I wish Amanda and her family peace.


    October 13, 2012 at 3:02 am

  8. everyone needs to know that bullying other people just because ur having problems at home or anywhere does not mean that u ca bully people just to get rid of it u need to face it and no bullying other we need. to.put. a. stand .and.stop. to bullying no matter wat it takes we need to stand strong and keep it up try to help one another if u see it happening dont just stand there stand up to it help one another were not any different than other people . we are all human beings need to try and stop it as soon as we can


    October 13, 2012 at 5:44 am

  9. I have to admit I haven’t been so nice to my classmates throughout school. Unlike others in my class, I rarely picked on anyone who was an outcast (that was an intentional choice). But still, I should’ve been (a lot) a nicer man. Something which was a «paradigm shift» for my attitude towards people, was a couple of months ago, when I spoke with a friend of mine whom had absolutely zero interest in an outcast acquaintance of mine, but none the less spoke resepectfully both of and with him. I really aim to do the same, be more thoughtful of what I say both to and about other people.

    Amanda’s story made me tear up. I wish I could’ve been there for her. But there are others out there who are in more or less the same situation as her; feeling ostracized, not respected, not listened to, being seen as a nobody. We’ve got to be there for each other, as each other are all we’ve got.


    October 13, 2012 at 8:56 pm

  10. I agree that we absolutely MUST find whoever was involved with the bullying and hold them accountable! We can’t let these people get away with what they did!


    October 14, 2012 at 1:42 am

  11. this is beyond sad. You are so right, it’s an outrage, devastating, and a statement as to what has become of our society….there is nothing so tragic as a young life ended so needlessly. No child should ever have to feel this hopeless.

    Cheryl McCann

    October 15, 2012 at 11:02 am

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    August 14, 2013 at 6:11 pm

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