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Zachary Golding, 15, Bullycide in New York

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Zack Golding was a varsity football player, played baseball and football.  He was very active in his church’s youth group.  He enjoyed camping, fishing, target shooting, and meeting new people.  And, according to his sister on the memorial page set up for him on facebook, he was also bullied.There’s been no mention as to why Zack may have been bullied.  The “why” shouldn’t even matter, though.  What matters is that one more young person has dealt with being bullied to the point where they felt the only way out was to end their life.  What is it going to take to reverse this deadly trend?

All of the answers are right there in front of us.  We understand that it’s an issue that needs to be addressed from the top, down.  It starts with the adults.  More importantly, it starts with the parents.  At the same time, it’s also obvious that re-educating young people is something that also needs to be done.  One top of that, we know that there’s an incredible lack of accountability and responsibility on the part of school officials in cases of bullying, and THAT needs to be addressed.  And, it’s apparent that some level of….the list is ridiculously endless.  What we’re missing is a solution.  A way to end this madness.

A friend of Zachary’s wrote of when they were schoolmates up until 5th grade and how his father had also taken his own life.  That’s a lot of trauma for a 10-year-old boy to have to carry around.  I can’t say whether that event lead to the depression that he struggled from or if it just served to make an already tough situation worse.  Either way, in the end, it appears that the lethal combination of depression and bullying proved too much for Zack Golding to handle.

On Thursday, October 25th, Zachary Golding reached the point of no return.  He succumbed to whatever it was he found so torturous in his brief 15 years.  On Thursday, October 25th, yet another teen in distress reminded us, the adults, that not enough is being done to prevent this from happening.  Not nearly enough.  I’ve even personally heard the remark that “it’s hard to feel sorry for someone who does that to themselves.”  Are you kidding me?  These are teenagers!!!  Judgments are certainly not what’s needed here:  solutions are.  If you look around you, yes even right in your own backyards, you will undoubtedly see a young person who is struggling with something.  It could be depression, being bullied, being abused…full palate.  The question must be, at this point, “what are you doing to intervene?”  What are you doing to give that young person the strength they need to try one more day?  What role are you playing in trying to make this epidemic end?  If you spend just an hour or so perusing sites such as tumblr, you should be alarmed by the things that are being posted, right there for the world to see, by teenagers!!!  Think about the Amanda Todd video.  They are screaming for help but, sadly, in far-too-many cases, their screams are falling upon deaf ears.  And, as a result, the bullying/teen suicide epidemic shows no sign of slowing down in the near future.  Translation:  we are failing, miserably, at saving these young people’s lives.  That means that we all need to step up even more in our efforts.  When you think you’re “doing your part”, do more.

Hopefully, you’re resting peacefully, now, Zachary.

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  1. Finding a solution could prove to be one of the hardest things mankind has come across, yet it seems so simple to “just be nice.”
    In my school, I feel as though we are finally getting to the point where kids are actually feeling safer to come to school. It’s my senior year. Took them long enough, right?
    Anyway, here’s what we did:
    We increased school spirit. (WHOAH. Who knew school spirit mattered when it came to bullying?)
    At the beginning of the year, we had a TON of assemblies. The staff didn’t talk about bullying directly. Instead, they would say things like, “Tigers help each other out!” “We are ALL Tigers!”
    We even brought in the middle school. (although at that assembly, it WAS about bullying.)
    They said “Tigers don’t bully each other. Tigers help each other.”
    The assemblies went on to show the cheerleaders and color guard performing, and getting everyone pepped up for the football games and whatnot. They got REALLY pepped. (I say they because I was performing).And I have seen a change. I have not seen as much bullying, and I feel safer there, and people are even being nicer to ME! I think many kids feel much safer coming to school this year. Perhaps other schools should follow suit?

    kattster

    November 8, 2012 at 6:18 pm

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  3. MY heart goes out to this young boy and to his family. My Grandson Zachary Kodoy Gales took his own life on Oct. 9, 2012 just 7 days before his 15th birthday! He was also being bullied ! No one would have ever imagined this to happen to this wonderful child , but it did! And the fact is, It happened because there are kids out there who think it is ok to bully. It is not ok. They think it is funny ! It is NOT funny! They either don’t care what happens, or they don’t realize the affect of what they say or what they do can have on others. It needs to stop!! There are children every day who are being bullied. It is Real ! It is happening and it needs to stop ! Zachary Golding was loved and he will be missed every day. My heart goes out to his family and to his friends who now have to endure that pain of losing this young boy. And that one question will always be there with them The question WHY ?

    Sarah Norton

    November 9, 2012 at 2:57 pm

  4. This was beautifully written . I am Zacks mom and I miss him horribly. Painfully. Thank you for posting this.

    brandy golding

    November 28, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    • Thank you, Brandy. It’s an honor hearing from you. I wish you and your family all the best during these very difficult times. ~ron

      Ron Kemp

      November 28, 2012 at 11:26 pm

    • Thank you Mrs Golding , he will never be forgotten inour town.

      cat bergman

      December 9, 2012 at 4:29 pm

  5. He is my brother… My actual brother… Thank you my family really appreciated this.

    Tyler Golding

    December 7, 2012 at 5:52 pm

  6. I think I may be the “sister” you were referring too… I claim him as my little brother because I’ve known the family for a good 19 years. I knew him before he was born. The family is super special to me and thank you for writing this. We need to stop bullying and have our children be aware of the consequences of it. :/

    Crystal

    December 21, 2012 at 1:28 pm


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