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Help LGBT Students Get Their Voices Heard

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This is a prime example of the emotional abuse LGBT students are forced to endure from adults.  The Gwinnett County, Georgia school system has banned LGBT students from accessing LGBT-friendly websites.  “It Gets Better”?  Forget about it.  “Wipeout Homophobia on Facebook”?  Not on your life.  Instead, the “lgbt” websites that are made available to them are sites that promise to “turn [them] straight”.  There should be a site where the administrators can go to turn themselves smart.

What they are saying is that it’s ok to batter the self-esteem and confidence of a young LGBT person, but it’s not ok for them to be able to go to sites that will help make them feel better about themselves or like they belong.  That’s bullying on an adult level.  On a deeper level, this tells them that they are defective, that their feelings are not authentic, that they can be “fixed” with the right therapy or information.  I’m guessing they didn’t catch the news that “ex-gay therapy” was a fraud.  A 30-year lie, led by an “ex-gay” who’s now a married (with children) man who openly admits that he still finds himself attracted to men and “still has urges”.  Surprising, huh?

The ACLU has taken Gwinnett County to task over this issue.  Early last year, the ACLU fought the federal government for the right of LGBT students to have access to gay-friendly websites, such as GLSEN.  And, they won.  Apparently, Georgia is exempt from federal rulings.  At this moment in time, I don’t know what the outcome is of their battle against Gwinnett County.  What I do know is that there isn’t time to wait for that decision.  Too many lives are at stake.

There’s a petition on change.org, “Help LGBT Students Get Their Voices Heard”.  It needs to be signed by the thousands.  Gwinnett County needs to understand that they cannot bully our LGBT students.  Like every other student in their care, the LGBT students are to be educated, nurtured, and protected.  Right now, like the LGBT students in Tennessee, they’re being fed to the lions.  We, the concerned citizens, can and must make a difference.

How Some Parents Drive Their Kids to Suicide (Updated)

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How Some Parents Drive Their Kids to Suicide (Updated)

I’ve been saying for too many years that there are parents in this country, and probably around the world, who drive their gay or lesbian sons or daughters to suicide.  And, to their defense, I will say that they don’t even realize they’re doing it until it’s too late.  We as adults, young or old, already know how difficult the teen years can be.  The teasing, the bullying, the “trying to fit in”, the sheer weight of peer pressure.  Toss into the ring the reality of being a gay or lesbian who is still figuring themselves out – or, for that matter, even the ones who are confident within themselves with their sexuality – which is almost certain to bring added pressure and tension.  Take all of that turmoil that they’re already dealing with at school amongst their peers, add to it living in a household where they already know that gays and lesbians are not accepted, looked down upon, or (in some cases) vehemently hated.  That’s a recipe for disaster.  It plays out in household across this country, and around the world, every single day.  Remember: every 18 minutes, a kid takes his own life.  That’s an epidemic!  It’s time we start changing the way we think in order to start saving some lives.  Even the strongest steel breaks under too much pressure.

UPDATE:

I thought it was fitting to add to this entry.  At this very moment, I’m also chatting with a simply delightful, highly intelligent, very handsome and sensitive young man.  Unfortunately, he also fights suicidal tendencies regularly.  And, at the root of that is a home where his family, his parents belittle him (at best) for who his is.  I spend as much time as needed, and as I can, talking to him.  It’s paying off.  He IS doing better by the day.  However, this morning, his self-esteem took another punch to the gut as his own mother called him “…a fool” for being in love with someone from his own sex.  If only we could get these parents to understand the devastating effect some of their words have on their children, I’m sure the suicide rate amongst teens, gay and straight alike, would be drastically lower.  Here’s the blog entry this young man-made (his permission to reblog was granted) after being verbally assaulted by his own mother:

Heartbroken…

I feel like everyone is stalking at me… Pressured just anywhere I go… Finally when I’d try to get closer to someone I love from all my heart… someone will surely be there to break my least effort… and break my heart to tiny pieces…

Even my own family wants to take away from me what matters to me the most… Urging me not to have what my life is just all about… if that’s so then I don’t even need my life either 😦

Sometimes I just wish to run away and get the whole thing over with…

Only then comes school, where I’m, yet again, handled as a darts target, a trash can, a whatever… what does life worth like this? 😦

A grateful thanks to the few beautiful people who reassure me from time to time… ily!

Pray for change.  Then work towards making it happen.