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4-Year-Old Sings “Ain’t No Homos Gonna Make it to Heaven”: Planting the Seeds of Intolerance

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It’s getting increasingly hard to keep religion out of my talk about the intolerance and hatred that leads to bullying.  I think today’s latest episode takes the cake.

At the Apostolic Truth Tabernacle in Greensburg, Indiana, a congregation and its leader, watch and listen as a 4-year-old boy – A 4-YEAR-OLD BOY!!! – sings the words he’s been taught:

Ain’t no homo gonna make it to Heaven.

When you watch and listen to the video, it’s actually hard to discern what this toddler,TODDLER, is saying.  He is, after all, 4-years-old!  However, when he reaches the climatic line of the song, his words ring crystal clear.  That’s good coaching.

Outrage doesn’t even begin to describe my emotion right now.  I’m sure that those one “the other side” of this great debate will argue that parents have the right to teach their young as they choose.  However, teaching intolerance at such a young age should be criminal on some level.  I’m entitled to my opinion.  Listen, Greensburg, Indiana is the city where Billy Lucas was bullied to his death for being perceived as being gay.

Did the Apostolic Truth Tabernacle rejoice in his death?  The kids who were responsible for bullying Billy until he couldn’t take it anymore were groomed by peoplejust like this!!!

A four-year-old has no idea what a “homo” is!  Nor should he.  So, why is he being taught to be intolerant towards them.  Can he even successfully recite his ABCs?  Can he successfully count to 100?  I don’t know that answer.  I do know that he can stand in front of the “church” congregation and sing the words “ain’t no homo gonna make it to Heaven”.  And, that’s beyond repulsive.

Shame on the Reverend Jeff Sangl for “preaching” hatred and intolerance in a place where the message is supposed to be one of love and acceptance.  Shame on a congregation that comes to their feet in a standing ovation as this toddler sung those words of intolerance.  In listening to the video, you can hear the good reverend saying “that’s my boy!!!” as the toddler finished singing.

The world is watching as America finally begins to show its true colors.  “Christian nation”?  Hardly.  God is love.  That’s written in that book they like to cherry-pick verses from and twist to fit their own bigotry.  Jesus Christ, according to their book, came to spread the good news of God’s omnipresent love and acceptance.  How in the hell did it get twisted to the point where it’s now a haven for bigotry, hatred, and intolerance!!??  Anyone who can answer than and figure out how to turn that misguided ship around will, no doubt, win a Nobel Peace Prize.  Meanwhile, the world truly is watching, while shaking their heads in disbelief, as the religious fanatics of this country continue to make a mockery of God and religion.  The unfortunate thing is the casualties of their war are young people.  Shame.

North Carolina Pastor Calls for Death to Homosexuals

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This story has caught fire across the Internet, and for good reason.  Here’s the blunt, honest truth about what’s going on in our culture today:  With the momentum that the LGBT community has picked up in its fight for equality, the far-right has declared war on everyone who falls under that umbrella.  The latest example of that is a North Carolina pastor, Charles Worley.  The head of the Providence Road Baptist Church made a statement that should be viewed as dangerous, if not criminal:

“I figured a way to get rid of all the lesbians and queers,” he says.
“Build a great, big, large fence — 150- or 100-mile long — put all the lesbians in there . . . do the same thing for the queers and the homosexuals, and have that fence electrified so they can’t get out.
“Feed ’em, and you know what?” Worley continues. “In a few years they’ll die. Do you know why? They can’t reproduce.”
Now, before any naysayers get riled up and leave comments about free speech, save it.  Rest assured that free speech has nothing to do with hate speech.  When a person publicly calls for the death a person, that’s not free speech;  that’s hate speech.  And, it’s criminal.  In “pastor” Worley’s case, he called for the death of an entire segment of our population!  That’s NOT free speech:  that’s hate speech!!  That’s called genocide.  Pastor Charles Worley is calling for the genocide of all LGBT people in this country.  That cannot be tolerated.
For a human being to call for the extermination of another human being is reprehensible, to be sure.  For a human being to call for the extermination of an entire group of people is Hitler-esque, to say the least.  For a person of power and influence, a so-called “man of God”!, to call for the mass murder of a group of people in front of his congregation is irresponsible, dangerous, and (should be) criminal.
It’s the knowing that people of this mentality not only exist in our society but hold positions of great power and influence that continues to fuel the bullying of LGBT teens in schools and online; it’s the reason why those who do the bullying feel sanctioned in their actions.  It’s a dangerously vicious cycle that demands immediate attention and firm action.
Petitions are already up and running online to combat this tyrant.  At the very least, it is this author’s belief that he should be forced to step down from “ministering” the congregation at Providence Road Baptist Church.  Further, he shouldn’t be allowed to minister at all, anywhere, ever again.
Look, this blog has nearly 15,000 direct followers, either as members on the facebook blog page or as subscribers to it.  Yet, only 10% or less read it on a daily basis.  Even less actually get involved when the whistle blows.  I get it:  in any arena, there are people on the field and in the game; and, there are spectators.  I get that.  However, this is an urgent call to action!  This article needs to be read and heavily circulated.  Even more importantly, the petitions need to be signed.  Being a spectator to the call for genocide shouldn’t be an option for anyone.  Understanding that “they” are officially declaring war on the entire LGBT community is vital at this point in time.
History will view people like Charles Worley through the same lenses that other historical tyrants are viewed.  He’s no less evil or dangerous, at least in his thought process, than Hitler.  However, “history” connotes future eyes looking back over time.  Right here and now, we’re in that time.  Lives are at stake, in the here and now, like never before.  When religious and political “leaders” begin to speak out and call for the death of an entire cultural group, it needs to be understood that they are essentially declaring war on said people.
It’s time for everyone to understand the urgency of the situation and get involved.  Here are the petitions to sign:
First, Charles Worley needs to step down as pastor of Providence Baptist Church:
Petition the North Carolina AND US Attorney General to take action:
Whether you’re gay or straight or anything in between, sign these petitions!!  If nothing else, do it for Harvey Milk.  He would’ve gone to bat for you.

THIS Is What We’re Up Against!

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By now, I’m sure that many of those reading this blog, or on the facebook blog page, have read the story of the North Carolina maniac, disguised as a pastor, who told his congregation to physical abuse their young children if they thought they were beginning to show homosexual tendencies.  That’s right!  In his words, “I give you a special dispensation this morning to…” crack the perceived limp wrists of their very young boy if they thought he was showing homosexual tendencies.  “Man up”.  He also urged them to PUNCH the boy.

I have to pause for a moment to regain my composure and dignity.

What’s worse is the “congregation” he was delivering the “sermon” to were laughing, cheering, and offering their “amen” to the words of this barbarian.    I’m guessing that advocating the harm of a child isn’t a crime in North Carolina.  Or, is that ok “as long as it’s done for religious, political, or philosophical beliefs.”?

My mind wants to go back to the person who “Anonymously” posted a comment last month to one of the blog entries who said that it was “absolutely absurd” to blame religious and political “leaders” for what’s going on in this country, and around the world, today when it comes to the LGBT community and, in particular, the LGBT youth.  Those words don’t go away.  I seeth every time they replay in my mind.

It doesn’t get any clearer than this:  what we’re witnessing right now in this country is an all-out war against the LGBT community.  Keep in mind, as well, that there was also recent a “DJ”, DJ Dominic Dieter, who went on record as telling a father that he should get one of his friends to screw his lesbian daughter straight.  For a nation so obsessed with terrorism, and the threat thereof (and, rightfully so), it’s interesting that groups who publicly wage war against a segment of our population aren’t considered domestic terrorists.  To be fair, I will add that a number of these maniacs are, in fact, listed as hate groups.  Wouldn’t you, as a Christian, be just a little leery about going to a church that is listed as a hate group?  Well, yes, of course you would.  That is, of course, unless your mind is as warped as those who lead these “churches”.

Here’s the issue in plain black and white:  we are in the fight of our lives, as a community, right here and right now.  At stake is our freedom, as a community, as “they” systematically attempt to erase all gains that have been made over the past few years as it pertains to marriage equality and discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation.  WORSE, what’s at stake is the very lives of the LGBT teens from coast-to-coast and border-to-border as we see one political and/or religious “leader” after another all but say “we don’t care that they’re killing themselves.  If they’d stop being LGBT, they’d feel better about themselves and wouldn’t commit suicide.”  We need to let them know that this is 100% unacceptable.  From this constant attack, led by highly visible “leaders” comes the mentality of the young ones that it’s okay, and even expected of them, to bully those they perceive to be LGBT.  


I get a little emotional about this.

This just shows what we’re up against.  It shows that we need to fight harder, with even more conviction, and we need every single available voice to speak up loudly and clearly.  The message needs to be crystal clear:  we are NOT second-class citizens; we are NOT mistakes; we ARE equal in every sense of the word; and, God’s opinion of me and my life is between me and God.  Being gay or lesbian or bisexual or transgender has NOTHING to do with the quality of our character.  We are PEOPLE, first and foremost.


Spread the word.  Every voice is needed…right now!

Hatred, Intolerance on Display

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You know when you’re doing something right:  you start getting tomatoes thrown at you.  In this case, naturally, it was only a matter of time before “they” started leaving their well-thought-out and, of course, completely accurate comments on this blog about the gay “lifestyle”.  Makes sense to me.  I would fully expect them to be experts on how we, the LGBT community, live our lives…much in the same way I would fully expect my mechanic to have the perfect diagnosis and treatment for whatever physical ailment I may have at the time.

I didn’t want to publish this comment.  But, the more I thought about it, the more it became clear that this is exactly the type of mean-spirited, hate-laced behavior and reaction that I’ve been talking about.  It’s exactly the type of response we’ve come to expect from the hard-core, ultra-conservative, group who dedicate their lives to hating any- and everyone who doesn’t think like them or act the way they feel you should act.  So, I have to publish it:

Homosexuality is a behavior. I mean that whole “genetic difference” fraud has been thoroughly debunked and now it is referred to as a “lifestyle” which openly implies choice. Thus the Jim Crow analogy you so frivolously apply is errant from the start. Nice try though. Oh yes and studies are also demonstrating that “queerness” does not occur in nature at some regular, predictable rate either as the homo community has alleged recently. It is after all quite “unnatural”. Were it an instinct of nature it would be productive not destructive. Simple enough eh? It’s just plain old square peg round hole stupidity and futility but some are determined to persist in their ways which are much too often self indulgent and self loathing. A frank discussion with the priest or pastor might bring about much needed spiritual enlightenment. I would recommend that.

Regarding the idiotic and shallow remark made above about Christians and minorities nothing could be further from the truth. It isn’t Christians funding and promoting Planned Parenthood the organization founded to exterminate blacks and now applying the same level of hate for their fellow man among latinos. Those are secularists, progressies, and plain old moral wretches. I mean think about it rationally for a moment: you have your baby, your product killed via brutal method then it is sucked down a vacuum hose, the parts placed in a bag, then thrown out in the dumpster? And you want to call this a “womans right to choose”? She chooses allright. There is truly a deep level of pathology at work in that kind of mind. In fact it is acknowledged to be so disgusting and disturbing that Planned Parenthood and abortion supporters don’t want women to see pictures or video’s of the procedure or the result in fear that they might actually become re-acquainted with their consciences. That says it all. God help us.

“Stupidity”, “futility”, “self-indulgent”, and my personal favorite “self-loathing”.  That’s this person’s view of the LGBT community.

Let me say right here that this is not an attack on Republicans.  I have many Republican friends who are absolutely wonderful people.  To be sure, most of them even distance themselves from the narrow-mindedness, hatred, and intolerance that is spewed from the fringe group.  Instead, this is about people who hate anyone who doesn’t conform to their beliefs.  That’s a very dangerous mindset.

The first question that comes to mind is why is it that what other people do with their lives so incredibly disturbing to these people?  I don’t know what goes on in their homes.  And, personally, I don’t really care.  Nothing about their lives has an affect on my life.  That is, of course, unless and until they begin to impose their thoughts, their beliefs, their biases on my life.  Then, the line is drawn.

Now, in an attempt to be fair to “the other side”, I will acknowledge that their first argument to what I just said will be “Well, you gays are always shoving your lifestyles in our(the normal people’s) faces.”  How would I know that?  Because, they’ve used it so much, now, it’s become a tired cliche.  But, let’s explore that philosophy:  Correct me if I’m wrong, but I thought this struggle that we’re immersed in is for equal rights.  Nothing more; nothing less.  Two factors come into play with their argument:  1.)  if “they” weren’t always so concerned about “those radical gays” or “the gay agenda”, there would be no need for “them” to feel we’re “shoving [ourselves] in their faces”.  If they would simply mind their own business and live their own lives as opposed to trying to dictate ours, they probably wouldn’t even know we are here; and, 2.) we get heterosexuality “shoved” in our collective faces regularly, which makes their argument terribly hypocritical.

Let’s cut to the chase.  What this comment proved, without doubt, is exactly what I’ve been saying:  the mindset and the rhetoric that comes from the opponent out there on that fringe right, is nothing short of hate speech.  There is nothing “godly” about how “anonymous” wrote that.  It was written with unmitigated hatred.  It was written as an attack.  And, it’s precisely that mindset and rhetoric that fuels the violence against the LGBT community that we see.  It’s the trigger to many a gay teen suicide; it’s the catalyst for many of the schoolyard bullies.

So, how do we combat it effectively?  Well, first of all, we need to be realistic and understand that it may never fully go away.  There will always be lunatics who need someone to look down upon in order to make themselves feel superior.  And, there will always be the self-righteous power junkies ready to force their will, their views, their reality on others.  Ultimately, we combat them, and win, by continuing to increase our numbers and making our voices heard.  We win by continuing to live our lives openly, honestly, proudly, and happily.  Most importantly, though, we continue to spread love because, in the end, love will always conquer hate.

“I’m a Christian, Unless You’re Gay”.  Explain to me, again, how that works!?

Written by Ron Kemp

April 4, 2012 at 5:07 am

Love is ALL That Matters

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I was perusing the facebook blog page and ran across a link to an article that caught my attention.  I followed the link, read the article, and cried.  I couldn’t figure out why it made me cry at that moment.  It just touched a place in my soul that’s sensitive.  Then, I saw another post, reminding people that I was the guest writer of the month on a very popular anti-hate website.  In the reminder, he told his audience that I was writing about my childhood experiences.  Then, it made sense.  The tears were coming from that still-bruised 12-year-old.  You have to read the article to understand.

In a nutshell, the link led me to a lengthy comment to an article from another blogger, “I’m a Christian, Unless You’re Gay” which, itself, is a rather lengthy article.  Lengthy but very worthwhile.  Correction:  lengthy but a must-read!!!  The article is powerful.  It’s powerful because the author, Dan Pearce, is speaking the truth on a topic that far too many people shy away from.  It’s powerful because it hits the nail right on the head.  It’s top-dead-center.  Perfect.  It’s what I’ve been saying, in one form or another, here in this blog.  But, wait!  For as powerful as the article, itself, is, the article isn’t what this is about.  The message he sends is, in a nutshell, love is all that matters.

Writing such powerful articles, straightforward, honest, and real is certain to evoke plenty of emotions and get overwhelming responses.  THAT’S what this is about.  The still-bruised 12-year-old who resides inside of me connected with that lengthy comment that was left by one of his readers.  A teacher gave this article to his class and told them to write about it.  In that class was a 15-year-old gay student.  The article resonated with him.  See, in his Christian home, in his community, homosexuality wasn’t just frowned upon:  it was more like the ultimate sin.  As such, he’d lived his entire life buried deeply, and safely, in the closet.  That is until he was handed this assignment and read it.  The comment was written by his devoutly Christian, deeply homophobic mother.

We see it everywhere.  We see it in the news regularly.  We see it in communities across the country, and around the world.  We see it in our homes.  We hear it from certain politicians.  We hear it from some religious “leaders”.  The message is clear:  God hates gays!!!  In God’s eyes, gays are condemned to hell.  Sick.  Disgusting.  Perverted.  The list goes on.  The message is picked up by the LGBT youth across the country and around the world.  The results…well, we’re seeing the results.  The results are being manifested in the bullying we’re seeing that’s leading far-too-many LGBT teens to suicide.  The results are being manifested in the lack of self-esteem that far-too-many LGBT teens experience that leads them to depression, drug-abuse, and eventually suicide.  Here’s the real deal:  this message is being sent by people who call themselves Christians.  In their own minds, and in their own warped visions of religion, they are “doing God’s will”.  The wake-up call is that God Doesn’t Hate!  I say this a lot, and I say it for good reason:  1 John 4:8 could not be any clearer.  “God is love”.

The core message in Dan’s article is one that I’ve been saying all the while:  in order to change the culture of hatred and intolerance that plagues our society, the one that leads to the bullying and violence we’re seeing towards our LGBT teens, the one that’s leading to far, far-too-many LGBT teen suicides, we have to start with the adults.  Look, no one is born hating.  No one is born intolerant.  We’re born to love.  Plain and simple.  We’re taught hatred and intolerance.  Young people are taught that it’s ok, and in some cases accepted and expected, for them to treat people who are different than themselves harshly.  With disdain.  With disgust.  With hatred.  With intolerance.  Especially if they’re gay or lesbian…real or perceived.  And, they are being taught that from certain political “leaders”, some religious “leaders”, and from their own parents.  Meanwhile, in many of these ultra-conservative, “religious” homes resides an LGBT teen who are being destroyed from the inside out by the nastiness and disgust they hear coming from their parents’ mouths.  The end result is usually bad news.  On the other side of the coin, in many of these ultra-conservative, “religious” homes, there are impressionable teens hearing mom and dad saying those very same words of disgust and intolerance, being taught to live “right”, live up to the parents’ expectations, and pass their hatred and intolerance on to any classmate he or she may have who is even perceived to be gay or lesbian.  The end result is equally bad news.

Here’s the real deal:  it is time for people to start speaking up for love, to start speaking up against hate…in all forms.  It’s the only way we’re going to change our culture.  It’s the only way we’re going to start seeing the incidences of bullying, hatred, violence and intolerance towards LGBT teens or anybody perceived to be different.  And, it’s the only way we’re ever going to start seeing the number of teen suicides, LGBT and straight, begin to reduce.  Regardless of what Fred and his group of loonies say, God does not “hate fags”.  In fact, God doesn’t hate.  Remember that.  God is love.  And, love is all that matters!

Thanks, Adriana.   And, thanks Dan!!!

A Culture of Hate

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It’s been said many times that this “war” that’s going on for equality, to end hate and intolerance, is nothing new.  We know from history that this is true.  History has provided us with instance after bloody instance of how hate permeates our culture.

As a reminder of some of the examples of extreme hatred and intolerance in recent history, it wasn’t really that long ago that a man named Hitler set out to exterminate anybody who wasn’t like himself.  It wasn’t that long ago when blacks had to ride on the back of the bus, were lynched just for being black, or couldn’t even vote.  I remember those days, actually.

I remember, as a very young boy, maybe 6, living in a small, backwards Virginia city called Portsmouth.  This was back in the early 60s, so racism was rampant there.  I was riding my bike farther away from home than I was allowed to, but I was a 6 year old boy.  Since when do THEY listen!?  As I went to ride across an intersection, this royal blue ’64 Ford Galaxie with a white top attempted to make a left turn.  We both screeched to a halt in the middle of the intersection.  The driver was a middle-aged white man with dark sunglasses.  We sat there in the middle of the intersection for what seemed like an hour, to a 6 year old boy, just staring at each other.  I was staring because I was 6 and didn’t know any better.  In addition, he was staring at me, so I figured it was what I was supposed to do in return.  However, thank God I was born with good intuition because, even at that early age, my young gut told me that this guy was dangerous.  Eventually, he peeled off past me and on down the street and I continued on along my way.  I saw him hang a hard right at the next intersection, and my gut told me that was not a good thing.  Sure enough, as I neared the approaching corner, which had a gas station on it, there was that very same 64 royal blue Ford Galaxie 500 with the white top.  My heart raced.  Thank God for my young intuition!  As I approached the car for a second time, the man with the menacing stare from moments ago lept from his car and lunged towards my 6 year old back with what had to be a 12″ dagger.  Already sensing that he was going to try and harm me, I was able to speed past him just ahead of the blade meant to tear into my back.  This man was willing to kill a 6 year old boy for no other reason than the fact that he was black!

Of course, there’s a much longer list of instances of pure hatred and narrow-minded, fear-induced intolerance.

Today, we’re in the midst of yet another struggle of right vs. wrong, good vs. evil, love vs. hate.  The LGBT community’s battle for equality and acceptance is, for sure, today’s Civil Rights Movement.  And, just as the case with that small 6 year old black kid in southern, racist Portsmouth, VA, there are people one “the other side” of the battle who have so much hatred and intolerance in them, they would use extreme measures rather than see us achieve simple equality.  One only has to look at the level of violence against members of the LGBT community to get a sobering snapshot of just how intense this battle truly is.  Watching from the sidelines are tomorrow’s LGBT community:  the LGBT teens.  Watching with the hope that we’ll win this war so that they will be able to simply live their lives happily, safely, and with the one they fall in love with.  We can’t let them down.

A regular reader contact me recently.  Inspired by the recent blog post about Daniel Zamudio, and himself a writer, he sent me a poem that needs to be shared.  It fits seamlessly with the emotion of the day and with the theme of this post:

If history had gone another way
Non-whites would be second class citizens
If history went another way
Jews would  still be in death camps
If history went another way
Gays would have been shot on sight
If history went another way
Hate and fear would control the hearts of leaders
So tell me now!
Tell me if you condone of such hate
Tell me now!
If you wish this upon others
Tell me now!
So I can sleep at last
Or lie in my bed  waiting for the nightmare of hate to become reality once more
TELL ME NOW!
If you so wish to kill or harm such a person
For little more for their religion
Their race
Their love
TELL ME NOW!
So that I can have a clear path ahead of me
Tell me now
So that when the time comes
I know where to stand
Tell me now.
Because as I witness hate I shall not stand idle no more.                           Written by Devin Callan

We cannot afford to stand idle.  Not now.  No more.  Each voice needs to be heard.  Our message needs to be clear.  Hitler was defeated.  The Civil Rights Movement of the 50s and 60s was won by the black community.  Today’s Civil Rights Movement focuses on the LGBT community.  It’s a battle that can, and must, be won.

Satire Mirrors Reality

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I got caught up in the moment.  Guilty as charged.  Yesterday, someone posted a link to the facebook blog page that caused a whole lot of controversy.  It was titled Top Ten Reasons Why Gay Marriage is Wrong.  Ok, I took the bait.  I read a little of it and became irate at what I was reading.  But, I shied away from writing about it because it didn’t pertain to either teen suicide or bullying.  Then, I read the line that broke to camel’s back.  THEN, I wrote about it.  And, then I found out that the whole thing was a satire.  A spoof.  And, upon closer examination, and with a much calmer mind, I was able to see the satirical angle to it. (I’m just happy that only 10 people read the blog post before I pulled it down!!)

The question that begs to be answered, though, is what exactly was it about that piece of satire that triggered such ire and from so many people, including myself?  Well, the answer is easy.  The piece echoed the diabolical diatribe that we’ve been hearing for far too long from the very people the satire was directed against:  the “fundamentalist Christians”.  And, it goes deeper than that.  It showed just how fed up we are, as a collective whole, of hearing their unbridled ignorance.  For me, personally, when I read the line “A normal child should be harassing and teasing gay kids and calling them “faggots”, not trying to be friends with them or enable their lifestyle”, my anger shifted into overdrive.  And, for good reason.  That mentality really IS pervasive amongst those who give true believers of God a bad name.

We must not lose sight of the fact that there really ARE so-called Christians who really do espouse that very same mentality.  There are politicians trying to pass laws that would sanction the bullying of LGBT teens.  And, as we saw in Anoka-Hennepin, the combination of religious and political “leaders” who share the same narrow-minded, hate-filled intolerance towards the LGBT community has a devastating effect on LGBT teens.

In hindsight, that piece of satire was actually brilliantly done.  It was almost TOO well done, actually.  Obviously, it struck a nerve.  It mirrored the reality that we face today in a society that still, in 2012, has people filled with hatred and intolerance.  Not only are they filled with hatred and intolerance, they are more than willing to spread their ignorance as “truth” in accordance to God.  When satire mirrors reality that closely, sparks fly.

Written by Ron Kemp

March 23, 2012 at 5:23 am