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100 Homophobes Tweet They’d KILL Their Gay Child!!!

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Everytime it seems we’re turning a corner on some of the madness we face, something comes along to remind us that there’s still plenty of work that needs to be done.  And, this one ranks right near the top of the list of the worst things I’ve ever seen.

On Monday, March 12th, trending on storify was tweets to people’s unborn children.  Tweets that vowed to KILL their unborn child if he or she turned out to be LGBT.  I don’t think it gets any worse than that.  Luckily, these tweets were picked up on by someone, and these people are being put in the spotlight.

Codie Sowders wrote:

#ToMyUnbornChild if you so much as think about being a homosexual I’ll put a bullet in your damn skull

From Daborey  Burrell comes this:

#ToMyUnbornChild if you turn out gay, I will burn you alive.

Rob Grant wrote:

#ToMyUnbornChild if your gay or retarded I will kill you.

And, this tweet from Chris Woodie:

#ToMyUnbornChild If you think gay is an option,let me know because we’ll abort you

Extremely graphic, I know.  However, I think it’s urgent that we know, and fully realize that there truly ARE people out there who, by their own admission!, would kill their own child if he or she were gay.  Worse, they said it unabashedly, as if the murdering of unwanted LGBT children was just the norm.

My first thought was “I sure hope they don’t have any other children!”  Any person who can even formulate such a thought about any human being at all, let alone their very own unborn child should, at the very least, be mandated to have every snip and tie done as to assure that they can never, ever reproduce.  This level of homophobia is reprehensible.

Here’s the danger:  this level of hatred, intolerance, and violence is precisely the accelerant that fuels the violence against the LGBT teens we’re seeing today.  And, as we’re being shown more and more every single day, the violence against LGBT teens, the bullying, is a learned behavior taught to them, in many if not most cases, by adults.  Directly or indirectly.  Imagine:  Codie Sowders has another child, or children!.  Wonderful parent in all aspects; however, the child or children knows Codie’s intolerant feeling towards gays.  And, that level of hatred would be impossible to mask despite the best efforts.  Well, what do you think the odds would be of that child, or those children, growing up to become homophobes themselves?  And, thus, the vicious cycle continues.  The bullying continues.  The LGBT teen suicide rate remains the same.  And, frightfully, if an LGBT child is born to any one of these people, the murder rate will go up as well.  By their own admission.

I’ve got a real problem with this one.  Hopefully, a lot of people have a real problem with it.  Just reading these real tweets from real “people” should be enough to get your blood up to 210 degrees.  For that other 2 degrees needed to reach boiling point, realize that there are teachers, judges, police officers, definitely politicians. priests and preachers…people from every walk of life with this level of homophobia.

It’s getting better, yes.  We still have lots of work to do.

Written by Ron Kemp

March 14, 2012 at 10:45 pm

Too Close to Home

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Those of you who know me know about my surrogate son, Marty.  He’s a wonderful, very sensitive, sometimes obnoxious 22-year-old.  Tonight, I received a panic-laden phone call from him that went like this:

“Ron.  I’ve got a very serious problem, and I don’t know what to do.  My friend, ‘Carol’ just told me that she wants to die and that she took 50 sleeping pills.  What should I do?”

He gets flustered easily.  This time it was warranted.  Being as closely involved with this anti-suicide mission as I’ve been since the onset of this blog paid huge dividends.  I knew exactly what needed to be done.

“You need to get off the phone with me and call the police immediately!  Tell them exactly what you just told me.  Give them all of the information you can about where she is right now.”

Reluctantly, he hung up and followed directions to the “t”.  “Reluctantly” because he didn’t know what to expect from his friend.   “Reluctantly” because dealing with the authorities makes him nervous.  I guess.  Whatever the reservations, he got the job done.  Shortly thereafter, the police called back and told him that they’d contacted his friend Carol and that she’d told them that she was just fine.  This was confusing.

There was also some apprehension on his part because he knows his friend and knows that, well, she’s cried wolf before.  In fact, he became a bit agitated.  I reminded him that “this is not about you; it’s about Carol.  What if she’s telling you the truth?  What if she really did take the pills.  You cannot chance the possibility that she COULD be telling you the truth this time.”

A phone call from her confirmed that she had, indeed, told him the truth.  He could hear the grogginess in her voice.  He called the police again.  This time armed with an address he could give them, they were able to send a squad car to her home.

They reached her before the pills had time to take full affect.  Stomach pumped, Carol is now recovering in a local hospital.  An exhausted, dazed and confused Marty helped save his friend’s life.  Of course, never to miss out on a dramatic moment, now he’s concerned that she’s going to be mad at him when she gets out of the hospital.  He’s concerned that his actions tonight may have ended their friendship.

For myself, this was a learning experience, given up close and personal.  First of all, knowing what to do when you’re faced with an in-the-moment crisis is absolutely crucial.  If someone has already swallowed a bottle of pills, or is standing in front of you with a gun in their hand pointed at their head, there’s no margin for error.  Knowing what to do in the heat of the moment is imperative.  This is why I repeatedly list resources that can be used if ever faced with that situation:

Suicide Support
STOP Teenage Suicide

Needless to say, there are more resources available.  However, having these handy will save lives if used.  And, of course, if the urgency is there (as was the case with Carol), dialing 911 is critical.

When do you take a suicide threat as a bluff?  Easy answer:  never.  Even in a case where you know that the person has a history of crying wolf, or is prone to drama, you never know when “this” would be the time when they’re telling the truth.  Had Marty followed his intuition, and his history of dealing with Carol, chances are pretty good that she’d be gone, now.  This wouldn’t be the first time I’ve dealt with someone who raised questions as to whether or not they were being sincere or just having fun at my expense.  However, I treated each case as if they had the loaded Glock pointed at their head as we spoke.  There is no alternative.  We don’t have a choice.

People who have suicidal ideation have no intent or desire to wake up in the hospital.  I surely didn’t.  And, I was quite unhappy to wake up in ICU and learn that a.) I was still here; and, b.) that my sister had saved me.  Unhappy, yes.  Mad at her?  No.  Conversely, I do know that there are times when the unsuccessful suicide victim becomes very angry towards the person(s) who saved them.  They get over it.  Eventually, they come to the understanding that life is good and that they’re glad that someone intervened.  When a person is to the point in their life where the only viable option to them is suicide, they’ve given up all hope for any semblance of a bright future, of being happy, of things actually getting better.  To have someone “ruin” their well-thought out plan of suicide is maddening.  The bright side is that, as time goes on, we start putting the pieces of our lives back together.  All of a sudden, new opportunities arise and we see hope for a brighter future.  We get in touch with things that make us happy…maybe even learn some new things that accomplishes that goal.  Little-by-little, things actually do start to get better.  And, that’s when we realize how happy, and grateful, we are that someone had the courage to risk our relationship for that sake of saving our life.

It probably won’t set in with Marty for quite some time the role he played tonight in Carol’s life.  Without him, her family would most likely be making funeral arrangements right now.  Because of him, they’ve possibly been saved, even if only for now, from a lifetime of debilitating grief.  I’m mighty proud of him.

It’s feels good to write a happy ending.

Written by Ron Kemp

February 23, 2012 at 10:06 am


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A couple weeks ago, I wrote here about The L Project, a group of highly talented lesbian entertainers in the U.K. who have come together to produce an original song that was written as a message of affirmation to the LGBT youth in particular, and to troubled teens in general.  It’s their contribution as we all work towards the common goals of ending bullying and stopping teen/LGBT teen suicide.  They will be releasing their single, “It Does Get Better”, in less than 48 hours!!  This is an exciting time as people from around the globe are anxiously awaiting its release.

I listened to the preview of it last week and was blown away.  It’s an incredible project put together by some of the most talented musicians in the U.K.

In a nutshell, the main purpose behind releasing the single is to raise money to combat LGBT teen bullying.  That’s crucial especially at a time where we’re being shown time and time again that there are far, far too many people, adults, and people in power who don’t give a rat’s ass about our LGBT teen.  I won’t get into that diatribe here.  The purpose here is to celebrate the continuing coming together of the LGBT community.  In less that 48 hours, the single will be released.  Every single dime earned from the single will go to organizations that will benefit LGBT teens and fund anti-bullying efforts.

So, if you haven’t already, go the their facebook page, “LIKE” the page, then share the link with your friends, as well.  Let’s show them our support!  Then, get ready for the release of “It Does Get Better”.  You’re going to love the song!  Thank you, The L Project, for sharing your talents with us.