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Jadin Bell, 15: Bullied for Sexuality Leads to Suicide

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By now, Jadin Bell’s name isn’t news to anyone.  The story began to circulate even before he had taken his last breath.  Days before that, one of his relatives who is also a member of the facebook blog page had told about this tragic turn of events.  We knew this day was coming.jadin-bell-21680Jadin Bell was just 15.  He was vibrant.  He was a cheerleader.  He was bullied, “viciously”, both at school and online, because of his sexuality.  Jadin’s suicide is particularly troubling for me on a few levels:

  • It has a “hit’s home” feel because his relative had been talking to me about even before the Internet media machine picked up on the story.  His relative has been a part of the facebook blog page for quite some time.  Family;
  • It shows that for all of the historic and marvelous gains the LGBT community has made just over the past year, we still have so very far to go.
  • It, at once, saddens and angers me that, in 2013, we’re still dealing with bullying and intolerance to a point where young people feel no other way out but to end their lives.

The question is asked regularly:  “When will this end?”  It’s often accompanied by “What can I do to help make this stop?”  They are two very powerful questions, questions that must be answered before we can expect to see any real changes in this landscape of bullying, intolerance, sexual identification discrimination, and teen suicides.  Of course, there are more factors that must be dealt with, as well.  The point is clear:  more must be done!

“When will this end?”  “This” will end when more people become fed up with seeing these young people feel that the only option they have to end the pain and struggle they’re dealing with is to end their lives.  “This” will end when we, as a society, stop tip-toeing around the scoundrel named bullying and tackle it head-on.  “This” will end when can finally come together on what is the best way to address the issue of bullying and bully-related teen suicides.  We’re still miles apart on that part of the equation!

There is something inherently wrong with the way we’re teaching our young when middle-schoolers believe that bullies are the cool kids!!!  Yet, an article I read just today reports a study that says exactly that!  Surely, tackling the bullying issue in middle school will continue to be difficult, at best, as long as the students there believe that the bullies are the cool ones.

“What can I do to help…”  Get involved!!  Roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty.  There is a Jacob Rogers right there under your nose who just needs someone to let him know that he really does matter, that he’s not invisible, that there really is someone who will stand beside him as he tries to get his footing in life.  There is a Jadin Bell right there in your backyard that needs someone to let him know that he’s perfect just as he is, that he has a lot to offer the world, that the bullying he’s enduring right now will end.  

See, this isn’t rocket science!  What’s needed is for more people to become more deeply and directly involved in the business of saving these young people’s lives.  Period!  Is your son or daughter a bully?  How do you know?  “Because they said they’re not!”  Really?  How do you know?  You need to know in order to prevent it.  Is your child being cyberbullied?  Then, why on Earth is (s)he still online!?  Simple things.  What is needed is for more people to become more deeply and directly involved in the business of saving these young people’s lives.  Period!jadin cheerleading
Jadin was a cheerleader.  He was loved by his friends and, obviously, family.  One friend said of Jadin:

Jadin is one of the best people I have ever met. He makes everyone around him feel good all the time.

A friend of the family had this to say about him:

He was different, and they tend to pick on the different ones. If someone was down and out he would walk into a room and say a couple quick words and everybody would just forget about their problems and smile. He just had a gift.

“He just had a gift”, a gift that the world has been robbed of.  Enough really is enough.  This really does have to end.  The time really has come for us, as a society, to dig in, roll up our sleeves, get our hands dirty, and bring this torturous chapter to a screeching halt.

So sorry you felt no other way out, Jadin.  Rest in peace.

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  1. my heart and prayers go out to Jadin’s family and friends. rip. you are tight it is time for this bullying to stop. if u see someone being bullied stand up get involved. i have seen enough of teen age suicide. we as a society have to come together to stop this and to pass tougher laws against bulling. the time to act is now

    larry fletcher

    February 1, 2013 at 1:17 am

  2. My heart goes out to Jadin’s family and friends . No one can ever imagine how devastating this is until it happens to you or someone you love. I know how you feel because on Oct.9th, 2012 my 14 year old grandson took his own life. He was being bullied also. May God be with you all at this sad time.

    Sarah Norton

    February 1, 2013 at 3:56 am

  3. I’m concerned that teachers quit observing children when they leave grade school. After sixth grade, they seem to devalue out children or seem to think they are mature enough to deal with bullying which grade school teachers would have broke up during grades 1-6. Why aren’t the teachers still watching during the times when students go out of the buildings? Why aren’t there hall monitors? I saw six-seven seniors bullying a freshman not 50 feet from the front door of the same highschool in the 70’s when I attended. I broke it up – I was a junior. I discovered it was my little brother right in the middle of the circle, having his lunch destroyed and being pushed back and forth by this guys who were at least a foot and half taller. All because he was and introvert, little, and wearing glasses. An adult standing outside the door, like they do during grade school, could have stopped them picking on him.

    Mardell Murrill Fisher

    February 1, 2013 at 1:28 pm

  4. Just wanted to let u know that Jadin is alive but the doctors do not feel he will make it. He was taken off life support a few days ago. They thought he wouldn’t make it through the night but he is holding on.

    I cannot agree more how there is so little involvement in the upper grades. These are the years that children struggle the most. In elementary there are tons of notices asking for parental involvement. High school? Not one.

    Vbkman

    February 2, 2013 at 5:54 pm

    • One of his family members alerted me that Jadin was still fighting!! Miracles DO happen. Let’s hope for one here.

      Ron Kemp

      February 2, 2013 at 8:47 pm

    • Jadin officially passed away just after 7:00pm February 3rd, 2013. Rest in peace, Jadin.

      Ron Kemp

      February 4, 2013 at 1:05 am


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